Just the other day, the Final Four match-up between Kentucky and Wisconsin took place…. and WOW! What a great game… Wisconsin knocked off the favorite by ten miles, Kentucky…
… and while I’m not a big college basketball fan, it struck me as something remarkable… the unbeatable being taken down by a team given zero chance.
TEAMWORK… belief… and sweat equity ultimately helped Wisconsin win the day.
Whether or not they win the BIG ONE remains to be seen, but I sure as hell won’t bet against them (although I think Duke is pretty darn happy).
And you know what, a few Kentucky players walked off the court without shaking hands… that’s just poor sportsmanship. Rich would kick you in the teeth if you did that to him.. but he’s short and can’t kick that high! 🙂
Wisconsin claims they weren’t thinking about the hype surrounding Kentucky. I believe them. To achieve great things, you can’t get overwhelmed with the end result… you have to focus on the details and SHOW UP every day.
Attention to detail, focus, effort, and carefully planned preparation will ultimately decide the winner.
And that brings me to a question I received awhile back that I thought I should answer now.
“I’m finding it difficult to succeed with my fitness goals because it feels like my wife isn’t on my team. I am exercising and eating better, but she isn’t jumping on board.”
First off, good job for wanting to include your better half in your transformation. Having someone who is on board with your goals is a sure way to success.
Second, you may have noticed something you knew all along…
PEOPLE RARELY CHANGE!
No matter how much you help, preach, teach, or praise… for the most part, they will stick with their existing programming. And yes, it can be very frustrating.
Does this mean they don’t give a sh*t about your care for them to be healthier?
No, they know you care… you see, humans are creatures of habit that behave on their “programming”.
So, how can we effect change around us?
The truth is, most people are hardwired subconsciously from their childhood. They run the programs fed into them by their parents, friends, and society when they were growing up.
Like it or not, the views they were exposed to as children about health, wealth, and happiness are deeply entrenched. This means you too… that programming is still in there deep down.
This can be good and bad… take for example parents who were great role models… however, not every parent is 100% great at being a full time role model. As parents, we all have failings and successes.
You see, a lot of those subconscious beliefs can be holding us back (including your wife) – and they can be the real reason people never seem to make positive changes.
So the answer to your question is very simple… lead by example.
Not a sexy answer, not an overnight answer, but the right answer.
It’s the Power of Modeling…
Remember, we emulate the things we are taught when we are raised… either by spoken word or by actions. We learn how to behave.
The principles to change those around you for the better lie within YOU.
As social creatures, we are all influenced and impressed by those around us.
“You are the average of the five people you spend most time with.” ~ Jim Rohn
There’s a sh*t ton of wisdom in that statement.- Surround yourself with winners who strive to be the best. Drop the negative folks who constantly complain about their situation in life. Seek out and improve your relationships. Find people who live the life you want and befriend them.
- LEAD BY EXAMPLE. Be a positive force in someone else’s life. For example, your wife may not want to exercise and eat better… however, if you don’t judge her and just live by example she may just want to effect change for herself. The power of change must come from WITHIN. You can’t ever make people change, they just resent you for it.
Work on being a better role model
Positive action breeds happiness. If you’re feeling down, go out and do something nice for someone else. Don’t ask for anything in return… but you know what? You’re gonna get the reward back tenfold in your soul.
You don’t need to be perfect… you don’t need to preach… you just need to behave how you want others to behave… you will attract similar people into your life and help those around you – even if you don’t think you are.
And that brings me to my next point…
If you want to increase your chances for success within your own golf game… then you need to surround yourself with people who have similar goals… and golfers with a great attitude.
